Weddings Baptisms and Funerals

Thinking of getting Married?
Many people choose a church as the place in which to celebrate their marriage.  Tradition is an important part of this choice, but more importantly couples choose to marry in church, in the presence of God, because his blessing adds a deep meaning and significance to the occasion.

The Church of England has a special place in relation to the laws of the country in respect of marriage, and a helpful explanation can be found on the “yourchurchwedding.org” website.  There is a legal right to marry in the parish church in the parish where you live.  You do not have to be a regular worshipper.  You will be welcome, and we will be delighted to help you to celebrate your marriage.

If you would like to enquire about celebrating your marriage in one of the eight churches of the Sole Bay Team please call one of the clergy below and we will be pleased to talk to you.

If you have celebrated a civil marriage it is possible to have your ceremony blessed in church and we will be pleased to discuss this with you too.

For more information or an initial chat please call or email one of our Team Vicars
Revd. Alan Perry Tel: 01502 453624  adperry64@gmail.com
What will it cost? Charges for 2016
• the fee set by law payable to the church: £415
• your marriage certificate: £4.00
• having your banns read at the home church: £27 + £13 for the banns certificate = £40
• having your banns read at the church where you will marry: £27
Total £446 This is the basic legal minimum

We can also offer the following options if you would like them.
Bells £150 (£170 for St. Edmund’s Church)
Choir £100 (£130 for St. Edmund’s Church)
Verger £30
Organist £70 (£130 for St. Edmund’s Church), Organist recording fee, if videoing £100
Heating charged if agreed is applied in winter months (October – April)

For further information on planning a wedding click on the banner below. This will take you to the Church of England Wedding site.

 

C of E Weddings

 

 

Funerals

A funeral marks the end of a human life on earth.  A service in either church or crematorium provides an opportunity for family and friends to come together to pray, to remember, to express their grief and to commend the person who has died into God’s keeping.  The words of the service provide reassurance and comfort, and remind us that however we are, we are loved, welcomed, forgiven and cared for by God.

We know that it is important that the funeral service reflects the families wishes and is an appropriate occasion in which to remember the unique person who has died.  The clergy are therefore willing to help you to choose music, poetry, readings and prayers that will be fitting.

 

The clergy and church family will support you through the process of arranging the funeral, and we will support you with our friendship and prayers as appropriate afterwards.

 

What is Baptism?
Many people are baptised as babies. Some are baptised in church in later life. There is no right or wrong time. For older children and adults, the decision to be baptised is theirs and is part of joining a worshipping community. When an infant is baptised parents & godparents promise to bring up the child in the Christian faith so that when the time is right the child declares the Christian faith for themselves at a service of confirmation. Confirmation can be compared to adult baptism as this is the moment in a person’s life when they make a public declaration of their Christian faith and pray for the blessing of God’s Holy Spirit.

The word christening is often used, and it is the same as baptism. A baptism is a ‘sacrament’: a visible sign of God’s love. We are thanking God for his gift of life and publicly acknowledging His love.

Where do they take place?
Baptisms usually take place in the church’s main service, because they are a public declaration that your child has become part of the church family. It is important that the church congregation is there to support you and welcome your child.

What happens at a Baptism?
If it is a child being baptised, the priest will ask the parents and godparents to make declarations and promises. The priest will make the sign of the cross on the child’s forehead. This is like an invisible badge to show that Christians are united, and not ashamed to stand up for their faith. The priest will pour a little water on the head. Water is a sign of washing and cleansing. In baptism it is a sign of being washed free from sin and beginning a new life with God. After baptism in water, the minister may anoint with oil. This is a sign of the outpouring of God’s Holy Spirit. Jesus is called the light of the world. A large candle may be lit in the church and parents may be given a lighted candle.

Godparents make the same promises on behalf of the child as parents. Godparents promise to pray and support the child and to help the parents to bring up the child in the Christian faith. You should have at least three godparents: two of the same sex as the child and one of the opposite sex. Godparents can be family members or friends. however, it is important that you choose people who will take an interest in your child’s spiritual welfare and who will pray for you and your child. they should be baptised themselves.

The Church believes that God’s love is available to all, regardless of their background. Please call your Team Vicar who can talk you through the options: you might prefer to have a Thanksgiving service first and then consider baptism when you have had time to talk through what is being asked of you.

For more information or an initial chat please call or email one of our Team Vicars
Revd. Simon Pitcher tel: 01502 725 424 revsimon@talktalk.net
Revd. Alan Perry tel: 01502 453 624 adperry64@gmail.com

A Baptism service is free, though there may be a small charge for a certificate.